Do’s and Do not’s
Texting and making or receiving phone calls during a service is a big no-no. It is very disruptive to those around you, and gives the impression that you are not especially interested in the events going on.
Such behaviour can easily be construed as hurtful to those who are grieving, even if that is not your intention. So just to ere on the side of caution, it is best to power off your phone and keep it tucked away.
Offering words of kindness is perhaps the best thing that one can do when attending a funeral.
However, though sharing condolences face-to-face is more personal, if you are unable to attend a funeral service, sending a message of sympathy can be a thoughtful alternative.
Sending flowers is generally seen as a more heartfelt way to show you care than simply sending a card.
Furthermore, though offering money is often understood as impersonal, it is thoughtful to send a charitable donation to a foundation in honor of the deceased.
At the end of the day, you are there to pay your respects to the deceased and their family. Simply being there and observing the ceremony is appreciated- don’t sweat the small stuff.
It is very common to hold a reception for friends and family after the funeral or cremation.
As these are often arranged at short notice, there are a few points to consider:
- How many people are you going to invite, as this will dictate the size of the venue required.
- Will you you require catering and a bar.
- If relatives have travelled a long distance will they require accommodation.
If you are having a reception after the funeral ask either the funeral director or a family member of friend to make an announcement to let people know when and where it is either at the funeral home or at the end of the memorial service.
However if you only want a family only reception just tell the appropriate guests and make sure that they are aware that it is a closed event.
The reception is a final send off for a loved one, and you do what you feel is right for you and your family. there are no wrongs or rights as what you can or can’t do just what feels right and respectful.
You can also have a open speaking platform where friends and family can say a few words about the deceased and share memories of them with everyone.
The main thing to remember is it should reflect the person you are saying goodbye too