Choosing funeral songs is often seen as an important part of personalising a funeral service for your loved one. It is a chance for you to pay tribute to their personality, their hobbies, or simply say farewell with one of their favourite songs.
When to Have a Funeral
Some aspects of timing are beyond the control of the funeral director. They may not want to confirm a date for the funeral until they are certain that registration is done and the additional forms needed for a cremation are complete or the coroner has given permission for the funeral to take place.
You do not have to accept the first date and time that the funeral director offers. Sometimes a date coincides with other important dates, such as a family birthday which you would rather avoid.
It is also important to check the funeral director has made sure the person you want to conduct the funeral is available before finalising the date and time. Not everyone is able to rearrange work and other commitments at very short notice especially if international travel is involved and it may be necessary for visas to be obtained.
Cemetery and crematorium appointments in the middle of the day tend to get booked up first. If everyone attending is local, you could have the funeral earlier or later in the day.
Institute of Civil Funerals
Civil funeral celebrants belong to the Institute of Civil Funerals and a list of them and their contact details can be found on the institute’s website.
The Institute of Civil Funerals, PO Box 160, St Neots, PE19 5WL Tel: 0845 0048608 Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Website: www.iocf.org.uk The British Humanist Association The BHA offers completely secular ceremonies conducted by their humanist officiants. The BHA has also published a booklet called ‘Funerals without God’, for officiants and families wishing to conduct this type of ceremony themselves.
BHA, 1 Gower Street, London, WC1E 6HD Tel: 020 7079 3580 Email: email@example.com Website: click here for the relevant page on the website In some areas, individual freelance celebrants, from either a religious or secular background, offer to conduct bespoke ceremonies. They advertise with funeral directors or in the press and some families may know of them by word of mouth.
Services provided by funeral directors A basic funeral is likely to include:
A plain, lined coffin transport of the body of the person who has died to the funeral director’s premises, usually up to ten miles from wherever the death occurred the care of the person who has died until the funeral. This will include washing and dressing the person who has died and laying the body out, but will not include embalming providing a hearse to take the body to the nearest crematorium or burial ground providing the necessary people to carry the coffin making all other necessary arrangements, for example, getting the required forms. Other services funeral directors could provide, or which you may want to sort out elsewhere are:
flowers a more expensive coffin and fittings press notices a medical certificate required for cremation, and any doctor’s fees for signing this an organist fees for religious services a burial or crematorium fee. The burial fee will usually include the costs of preparing the grave extra cars embalming extra services by the funeral director, for example, use of the Chapel of Rest, transport from the mortuary, or special viewing arrangements the cost of journeys of more than ten miles to the funeral director’s premises a memorial catering arrangements stationery.